Healing Families

There is no doubt that sin, all sin, touches each and every one of us. As a mother or father who has had an abortion, we often do not want to think of the pain our decision to abort causes our living children. We may even go so far as to deny any impact at all, as if learning of an aborted sibling would not have an negative impact.

Am not going to get into if someone should tell their children or not. That is very individual and needs to be decided with good counsel and spiritual direction; instead, I am just going to mention a few things.

It is painful and hard to look at this result of abortion, but this too can be healed through God’s mercy and good direction whether it is a priest or counselor! It will take time for sure, but in the end God will use it to bring your family even closer together if it was His will that you tell your children, and even if it was not.

The road to healing is difficult for siblings, layered with the confusion of many emotions and consequences. How could the people who are supposed to protect me kill my sibling? Where do I go with my pain? My feelings? Would I even be here is my sibling were not aborted? Would my name be the same? I could go on and on.

If I could say one thing to them it would be, “Your life has dignity and worth, just as much dignity and worth as your siblings. It was not your fault. Trust in Our God of Mercy to heal you all. He does it. I have seen it time and again.”

The scourge of abortion has touched our land, but so has the blood of Christ which cleanses and is greater than any sin.

“Sacred Scripture speaks to us of this reconciliation, inviting us to make every effort to attain it.(15) But Scripture also tells us that it is above all a merciful gift of God to humanity.(16) The history of salvation-the salvation of the whole of humanity as well as of every human being of whatever period-is the wonderful history of a reconciliation: the reconciliation whereby God, as Father, in the blood and the cross of his Son made man, reconciles the world to himself and thus brings into being a new family of those who have been reconciled.” Pope John Paul II