Control Connectors: People, Places and Things That Push Our Buttons

We all have them. People, places and things that push our buttons. Those of us who have experienced abortion may have very strong ones because they bring us back subconsciously to our abortion experience.  Keeping our life in the here and now is important and so it is also important to know what our connectors are so we can react appropriately to the present situation.

For me a big one is being bullied and controlled. Of course, that is because I was coerced by my father into my abortion. I was backed into a corner and contrary to the “choice” we all supposedly had, I allowed it because I felt I had no choice.

I am very aware of this connector and so for me the prayer is always, how much of what I am experiencing is the present, and how much is the past. Am I blowing it out of proportion or do I need to stick up for myself and not allow myself to be treated this way.

Actually, no one should ever be bullied. It truly is uncharitable, but the degree to which I react should be in relation to the present not the trauma of the past. It should be based on healthy response not emotions tht can rage out of control.

Do you know what your connectors are? Before we can let go of their control we need to identify them.

Is it a smell?

conrolling or manipulating people?

anniversary reaction?

certain places that make you uncomfortable?

clothes you wore?

doctors in general?

sounds? The list can go on and on.

What triggers your abortion for you?